Yesterday, while learning about hypnosis, I was introduced to a theory by Freud called the “Iceberg Theory”. It is a theory about the conscious VS the unconscious mind. It is pretty fascinating stuff!
However, when I read it I couldn’t help but think about Facebook. Whether its a post about a business, a personal achievement, a vacation or even a news article, all we really see is what is on the surface. We rarely, if ever get to see the rest of the story. For simplicity sake let’s call this the Facebook Theory.
Facebook has become an amazing tool for all of us to become more connected, yet in many ways, our society has become more disconnected than ever. Instead of picking up the phone to say hello and ask about the amazing trip that our friend just went on, we click “like” and rarely ask them about their experience. We read news articles and immediately believe the story or take sides, then persecute any of our “friends” that don’t agree with us. Rarely do we take a few minutes to consider the other person’s point of view and why they may feel the way they do. We see a person advertise their business or services and immediately accept or reject them without ever asking them what inspired them to begin their business in the first place or how we can help them succeed.
Today I’d like to challenge you to begin the process of reconnecting with your “friends”. It’s time to stop accepting what’s on the surface and go deeper. Really start to “connect”. Ask more questions, send more personal messages, pick up the phone and have a conversation with your old friend. Go deeper, learn to see what’s beneath the surface. Quit generalizing by lumping all people of one belief into one category. Learn to accept that your opinion is not the only “right” way of seeing things. Celebrate each others accomplishments and TRULY be present and available for your friends in a time of need.
Are you up to the challenge?
Today I am posting a reminder for myself of the 7 decisions that are outlined in Andy Andrews book “The Traveler’s Gift”. If you haven’t read the book. Read it immediately. If you have, this will serve as a quick reminder. Have a great day!
1. THE BUCK STOPS HERE.
I will not let my history control my destiny. I accept responsibility for my past. I am responsible for my success. My decisions have always been governed by my thinking. I control my thoughts. I control my emotions. My thoughts will be constructive, never destructive.
2. I WILL SEEK WISDOM.
I will train my eyes and ears to read and listen to books and recordings that bring about positive changes. I will read and listen only to what increases my belief in myself and my future. I will choose to associate with people whose lives and lifestyles I admire.
I will listen to the counsel of those who are wise. By learning from other people’s wisdom, I add their knowledge and experience to my own and dramatically increase my success.
I will not look for someone to open my door; instead, I will seek to open the door for someone else.
3. I AM A PERSON OF ACTION.
I will create a new future by creating a new me. I inspire others with my activity. I am a leader. Knowing that laziness is a sin, I will create a habit of lively behavior.
I will walk with a spring in my step and a smile on my face. My activity will create a wave of success for the people who follow me. As a leader, I have the ability to encourage and inspire others to greatness. I do not fear failure, because failure exists only for the person who quits.
I do not quit. I am courageous. I am a leader. I seize the moment. I choose now.
4. I HAVE A DECIDED HEART.
I am passionate about my vision for the future. The power to control my direction belongs to me. Today I will begin to exercise that power.
I will awaken every morning with an excitement about the new day and its opportunities for growth and change.
Yes, I have a dream. It is a great dream. My hopes, my passions, my vision for the future are my very existence. A person without a dream never had a dream come true.
My course has been charted, and my destiny is assured.
5. TODAY I WILL CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY.
Happiness is a choice. I am enthusiastic about each day. I am alert to its possibilities.
I will become the master of my emotions.
I will greet each day with laughter. I know that enthusiasm is the fuel that moves the world.
The world belongs to the enthusiastic, for people will follow them anywhere! My smile has become my calling card. It is, after all, the most important weapon I possess. I am the possessor of a grateful spirit.
6. I WILL GREET THIS DAY WITH A FORGIVING SPIRIT.
By the act of forgiving, I am no longer consumed by unproductive thoughts. I will forgive those who have criticized me unjustly.
I now understand that forgiveness has value only when it is given away. I forgive their lack of vision, and I forge ahead.
I now know that criticism is part of the price paid for leaping past mediocrity. I will forgive those who do not ask for forgiveness. From this day forward, my history will cease to control my destiny. I have forgiven myself. My life has just begun.
7. I WILL PERSIST WITHOUT EXCEPTION.
I possess the greatest power ever bestowed upon mankind. I hold fast to my dreams. I stay the course. I do not quit.
I acknowledge that most people quit when exhaustion sets in, but I am not “most people.”
I am stronger than most people. Average people compare themselves with other people, and that is why they remain average.
I compare myself to my potential. I am not average. I see exhaustion as a precursor to victory. By persisting without exception, my outcome—my success—is assured.